Dream BIG

January 2, 2008.
why: remember2dream big, you ask?
well, I love to dream big! why not? why not TRY to achieve something!? The point is to grow both intellectually and spiritually in the process... not in achieving the ultimate goal.
Reaching that ultimate goal will not make me or you happy. Yes, it will bring some kind rush/ excitement/ craziness sense of achievement; but it will not bring happiness.... Happiness cannot be achieved... you and me and every-one already have happiness... we just like to focus on the things or people that we don't have; and in focusing on those things we don't realize that we can be happy with what we HAVE right now, not in what we WANT...
This has taken me a while to understand... but the more I see things this way, the more I feel happy because somehow, I don't need silly attachments... and this in turn makes me see that I don't need people to be "happy". I used to be very attached to friends from school... I thought that without them, without their approval, without their compliments I would not be anyone. Boy, was I wrong! I realized that I was not living MY life... I was living a tiredsome life, just to please others, and to be what others wanted me to be... So no, you don't need others approval or dissaproval.. you don't need company to fill your empty space... don't get me wrong, there is nothing wrong with enjoying your friend's company! BY all means please do!
But, just don't become addicted to their company... because if you do, you stop seeing them, you stop seeing the reality of them, and all you do is seek out their "fun company" or their "loving company" or whatever it is you seek in them... what if they don't want to be "fun" or "loving" one day? I bet that you will feel betrayed... you will feel as if they have changed, you will feel rejected... its is not their fault you feel that way! it is yours! you made this person be something that they really weren't ... you are probably mad that they did not make your expectations... that they did not MAKE YOU happy that day... that they did not LOVE YOU that day... how selfish does that sound? why do they HAVE TO PLEASE YOU???? is there a law that says that? how dumb to think that you have to please others in order to be accepted... and that others have to please you in order for you to like them!?!??!
Dream big! Think big! think out of the box! don't do things without questioning them! don't think that your beliefs and customs are who you are. Don't think that you have to accept whatever comes and live with that, and not question anything.... thats living like robot!
So, dream BIG!!!!! but don't live in a dream!!!!!!!
For 2008 I have a big dream! A dream that might seem impossible to achieve... and well, I might not even achieve that dream... but I am willing to take a big risk, and try my best to reach it! why? because that is how we all learn new lessons... so what if I fail? as long as I have learned something from it... that is all that counts!...... Do you have a dream?